Books, movies, and television paint a rosy picture of the holidays. But the season can wear painfully thin when you’re living with grief. And, whether you’ve experienced a recent loss or one in the past, it can become increasingly challenging to celebrate under the constant barrage of “all is merry and bright.” As these feelings increase, those in grief can feel more isolated and alone.
But you’re not alone.
The South Plains Rural Health Services team understands that grief can be overpowering and affect people uniquely—and that the holiday season can make these feelings even more challenging. That’s why we offer personalized grief counseling services for any type of loss, whether that’s a spouse, friend, job, or health. We have four locations in Levelland, Lamesa, and Big Spring, Texas, where you can seek help and support.
If you’re facing the holidays with grief or loss, these strategies can help make the season a little more manageable.
It’s easy to feel we must act or behave in a certain way, especially during the holidays. However, it’s crucial to acknowledge your feelings during this emotional time — they’re honest and matter.
Grief has an emotional and physical impact on the body. Recognizing your feelings allows you to take breaks when needed, get plenty of rest, and eat healthy foods. All of these actions can help support your emotional and physical health, especially with the increased stress of the holiday season.
Don’t forget that grief takes time. Don’t rush yourself, and do what feels right for you.
On top of acknowledging your grief and emotions, you should also share these feelings with those you trust. Don’t hesitate to let those you’re closest know you’re struggling, and give them the tools they need to help you manage the season.
For example, let people know if talking about someone who is no longer there is okay. Or encourage them to listen while you share stories or feelings — without offering advice on the subject.
Remember, it’s natural for people to want to “help” those in grief. So, clearly communicate your needs during the holidays so they can provide the most support you need.
Spending the holiday season with others is often the last thing a person wants to do when grieving. However, social connections with others provide tremendous healing power, especially during the holidays.
If you don’t have friends or family you can lean on, there are other ways to find support. Our team recommends connecting with a grief support group, talking to a therapist, or getting active in your community through volunteerism or organized group activities.
Taking these steps can help you find others who understand what you’re going through, create a loving support network, and keep your mind off your guilt while providing ways that make you feel good by helping others.
One of the best and worst parts about the holidays is traditions. After all, people often look forward to these beloved rituals every year. However, they also make it painfully obvious when a loved one cannot join in. Keeping their memory alive can help keep their spirit close during the holiday season.
Types of rituals that help seasonal grief might include:
You can even create new traditions that honor your loved one, like lighting a unique candle or offering a tribute to them — silently or aloud.
Finally, if you feel overwhelmed by grief or unable to manage the holiday season, our team can help. While it may seem tempting to turn to self-soothing behaviors like substance use or overeating, these can worsen your symptoms.
No matter what’s causing your grief or how much time has passed since your loss, our experts can provide the tools you need to manage the days ahead.
Do you need help managing grief during the holidays? Our team provides convenient, affordable, high-quality healthcare for the whole family. Call the location closest to you.
